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Mating in Captivity Reconciling the Erotic + the Domestic Esther Perel Dedication To my parents, Sala Ferlegier and Icek Perel. Their vitality lives on in me. Epigraph WILD THINGS IN CAPTIVITY Wild things in captivity while they keep their own wild purity won’t breed, they mope, they die. All men are in captivity, active with captive activity, and the best won’t breed, though they don’t know why. The great cage of our domesticity kills sex in a man, the simplicity of desire is distorted and twisted awry. And so, with bitter perversity, gritting against the great adversity, the young ones copulate, hate it, and want to cry. Sex is a state of grace. In a cage it can’t take place. Break the cage then, start in and try. D. H. Lawrence Contents Dedication Epigraph Introduction 1 From Adventure to Captivity: Why the Quest for Security Saps Erotic Vitality 2 More Iintimacy, Less Sex: Love Seeks Closeness, but Desire Needs Distance 3 The Pitfalls Of Modern Intimacy: Talk Is Not the Only Avenue to Closeness 4 Democracy Versus Hot Sex: Desire and Egalitarianism Don’t Play by the Same Rules 5 Can Do! The......